The best choice is sometimes counter-intuitive.
The way forward can appear to go back.
Going fast might mean going slow for now.
Figuring out which direction to go might first mean getting lost.
Getting things done might require that you stop trying.
Wendell Berry, gentleman poet, modern philosopher, and farmer, wrote a gorgeous little poem called The Real Work about this idea:
It may be that when we no longer know what to do
we have come to our real work,
and that when we no longer know which way to go
we have come to our real journey.
The mind that is not baffled is not employed.
The impeded stream is the one that sings.
If you’re feeling clueless, lost, baffled, depressed, or defeated right now, it’s possible (maybe even likely) that you’re exactly where you need to be to get to where you’re going.
Things will get better.
In the meantime, sometimes the healthiest choice means eating two donuts. Big ones.
Yes, I made up counter-intuitivity. And while we’re on the subject of Wendell Berry, do yourself a favor and read Think Little, an essay of his that has influenced me dramatically in my Offscripting life.