But you, children of space, the restless in rest, you shall not be trapped nor tamed.
You shall not dwell in tombs made by the dead for the living.
Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
How about a metaphor comparing people and crabs?
Crabs don’t naturally have shells, and a crab without a shell has no protection or home, which is a problem. So a shell-less crab will prioritize running around in the sand looking for a shell.
Crabs can’t make their own houses. They can’t build their own protection. Crabs have to find a shell already made.
You are not a crab.
You are a person.
Or a very intelligent dog.
(That’s a dog-reading-things-on-the-Internet joke)
What a crab’s life looks like depends largely on the shell that crab chooses to make a home in. The choice of shell shapes and limits the crab’s growth.
People are not crabs, but we also often pick a shell and then build a life within those confines.
A particular career or kind of job.
A building with a mortgage.
There’s not anything wrong with doing that.
But, for just about anyone reading this, recognize that it’s a choice.
Crabs don’t have much of a choice. You find a shell, or you’re immediately going to die.
Unlike crabs, humans have lots of other possibilities for how to shape, form, or build a life.
Shell. No Shell. Shell with a skylight.
You have options.
Disclaimer: I know nothing about crabs and cannot assert that even the minimal information provided here pertaining to crab life bears any correlation to reality.